This woman, though she wanted to believe that her lover was a man, was still worried that he might have lied about his gender and they were in a very serious relationship.A couple that has been dating for years in the real world dont question basic information such as gender therefore there cant possibly be any trust in online relationship: A disadvantage of online dating is deception (Barnes 139).
These different personalities that get created online are only able to survive because there is no accountability in the real world for what we do and say online.
For example, if I meet someone on and we develop our relationship online none of my friends in the real world would ever have to know about it; the only way my friends would find out is if I told them myself.
Although these types of situations could happen in the real world as well, there is still a large difference; simple questions of identity in online relationships can never fully be answered until a meeting in person.
In a relationship in the real world you would typically believe that the name they gave you is correct but in an online relationship there will always be a suspicion that the person is not being completely honest: She says that she is pretty sure that her electronic lover is actually a man (rather than a woman pretending to be a man) because she does not think he would have suggested meeting if it were otherwise, but she worries that neither of them will turn out to be close enough to their very desirable cyberselves (Turkle 179).
Sherry Turkle, Sociology of Science professor at MIT, believes that this new age of communication provokes people to create another aspect of them to portray online.