Similarly, the use of a car, whether the family car or a teen's own car, is an expensive privilege that can be awarded for responsible behavior, or taken away for irresponsible behavior.
At a minimum parents should clearly establish and communicate their expectations about driving and the use of a car.
If one parent has strong convictions about certain rules or behavior that should be enforced regardless of which home a child is visiting, they need to respectfully discuss these expectations with the other parent to see if their expectations are agreeable to the other parent.
Nevertheless, parents need to establish clear guidelines that enable their youth to make wise choices.
First, youth should be explicitly taught they are expected to follow their own family's rules whether they are at home or visiting someone else's home; and, they must also comply with the rules of the home they are visiting.
If parents become aware of activities or rules at another child's home that they do not agree with, they should calmly discuss their concerns with the parents of the other child.
Perhaps the youth did not accurately explain the difference in rules or perhaps the other parents were not aware of the reasons for concern.
Experimentation with alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs Besides talking to youth about the risks to using substances, parents need to express clear rules and expectations around teen substance use.