The problem lies with these American women are not Muslim and do not know how to differentiate between a pious good Muslim husband prospect and a bad prospect.
He may have often been raised in such a pure society where trusting everyone is given no thought and then he lands in America and he realizes that trust level just does not exist even with his Arab buddies. His friends will strongly discourage him marrying you, especially if you have children from a previous marriage.
A pious Muslim man will know that if he marries an American and helps to raise your kids that it is a great blessing.
Islam promotes a very open, respectful and deeply intimate relationship between man and woman, but only within the fold of marriage.
Marriage Is A Virtuous Relationship Outside of marital relationships, we are asked to be modest and protective of ourselves — physically and emotionally — and thus to limit interactions between men and women. Because we believe that God gives us our bodies, our souls, our provision and our mental capacities as a trust ( Date My first date was after graduate school, and most of my dates were through the formal means mentioned above.
shaadi.com, and muslimatcher.com) and matrimonial events (like speed dating and networking events where the goal is a life mate, not a date).